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7 Habits of Highly Ineffective People

quite useful...at least to me
                                                                               
By Henrik Edberg
                                                                               
With a twist to the common list of habits that are useful to establish, here
are 7 habits that you do best to avoid.
                                                                               
Just like finding habits that can be useful for you it’s important to find
habits that are holding you back. Most of these 7 habits can easily become
such a normal, everyday part of life that you hardly notice it (or how it’s
affecting you). I’ve dabbled with all of them quite a bit. Not surprisingly
I didn’t get much of the important stuff done. I′d also like to add that
these are just 7 broad habits you can establish to become highly ineffective
in most parts of your life. I pretty sure there are several more.
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
1. Not showing up.
                                                                               
Maybe you’ve heard this quote by Woody Allen:
＂Eighty percent of success is showing up”
One of the biggest and simplest thing you can do to ensure more success in
your life – whether it be in your social life, your career or with your
health – is simply to show up more. If you want to improve your health then
one of the most important and effective things you can do is just to show up
at the gym every time you should be there.
                                                                               
The weather might be bad, you might not feel like going and you find yourself
having all these other things you just must do. If you still go, if you show
up at the gym when motivation is low you will improve a whole lot faster than
if you just stayed at home relaxing on the sofa.
                                                                               
I think this applies to most areas of life. If you write or paint more, each
day perhaps, you will improve quickly. If you get out more you can meet more
new friends. If you go on more dates you chances of meeting someone special
increases. Just showing up more can really make a big difference. Not showing
up will not get you anywhere.
                                                                                
                                                                                
2. Procrastinating half the day.

To keep it short, my 3 favourite ways to get out of a procrastinating state are:
- Swallow that frog. What′s this means is simply to do the hardest and most
important task of the day first thing in the morning. A good start in the
morning lifts your spirits and creates a positive momentum for the rest of
the day. That often creates a pretty productive day.
                                                                               
- How do you eat an elephant? Don′t try to take it all in one big bite. It
becomes overwhelming which leads to procrastination. Split a task into small
actionable steps. Then just focus on the first step and nothing else. Just do
that one until it’s done. Then move on to the next step.
                                                                               
- The Get around to It Paraliminal. I find this guided mediation to be very
useful. After 20 minutes of mostly just lying on my bed and listening I’m
far more productive for a few days. I don′t feel the urge to sink into that
procrastinating state or the need to find out what’s new over at one or five
of my favourite websites.
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
3. When actually doing something, doing something that isn’t the most
important thing right now.

One of the easiest habits to get stuck in, besides procrastinating,
is to keep yourself busy with unimportant tasks.
                                                                               
To be effective you probably need some kind of time management-system. It
might be something really simple, like using the 80/20-rule at the beginning
of each day. The 80/20 rule, or the Pareto Principle as it′s also known,
says that you′ll get 80 percent of your results from only 20 percent of your
tasks and activities. So you need to focus most of your energy on those few
important tasks to be effective.
                                                                               
When you have prioritized using this rule just write down the top 3 most
important things you need to do that day. Then, from the top, start doing
them. Even if you just get one of the things done, you have still done the
most important thing you could do today. You may perhaps prefer some other
system, such as GTD. But however you organise your work it’s still of
highest priority to find the most important tasks so you don’t spend days,
weeks or months doing busywork that isn’t that essential anyway. Just
getting things done faster isn’t that useful if the things you get done are
unimportant to you.

4. Thinking too much.
                                                                               
And thereby seldom taking action. Paralysis by analysis can waste years of
your life. There is nothing wrong with thinking before you do something. Do
some research, make a plan, explore potential upsides and problems.
                                                                               
But compulsively thinking and thinking and thinking is just another way to
waste your time. You don’t have to examine everything from every angle
before you try it. And you can’t wait for the perfect time to do something.
That time never comes. And if you keep thinking you’ll just dig yourself
down deeper and deeper and taking action will become more and more difficult.
Instead you just need to stop thinking. Shut of your mind – it just helps
you up to a point – and go do whatever you need to do.
                                                                               
                                                                               
                                                                               
5. Seeing the negative and downsides in just about anything.
                                                                               
When you see everything from a negative perspective you quickly punch a hole
in your own motivation. You find faults everywhere and problems where there
are really none. You cling to details. If you want to find a reason to not do
something then that’s no problem. From a negative viewpoint you can find ten
reasons every time.

And so very little gets done, you whine to anyone who wants to hear – and
many who don’t – about how crappy your job, life and boss is. Which becomes
a self-fulfilling prophecy as you create the life that is appropriate
considering how think and see your world.
                                                                               
A solution is to realise the limits of a negative perspective. And that your
perspective isn’t some kind of 100% true picture of the world. Then try
other perspectives. For instance, trying to establish a habit of seeing
things in a more positive and optimistic light can be quite useful. In that
vein, you may want to try the Positivity Challenge. It′s not easy, but if
you do the challenge and try to only think positive thoughts for 7 days it
can give you an insight in how much your perspective and beliefs changes how
you interpret your world. And what results you get.

6. Clinging to your own thoughts and being closed to outside influences.
                                                                               
It can be hard to admit that what you thought or believed was not the best
alternative. So you cling to your thoughts harder and harder and keep your
mind closed. This makes it hard to improve and for instance to become more
effective. Even really considering the possibility that you can change your
life can be difficult in this position.
                                                                               
One solution, obviously, is to open up more. To open up and learn from the
mistakes of others, from your own mistakes and from other sources like books.
This is easy to say though. It can, as almost anything, be harder to do. One
suggestion I have is to, like I said about the previous habit, realise the
limits of what you know and the way you going about things. And then just try
something new.
                                                                               
Another tip is to read A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle and especially look at
the chapters about the Ego. If you stop identifying so much with your
thoughts and your Ego, as Tolle prescribes, it becomes a whole a lot easier
to let new ideas and thoughts come into your life. And to let go of old
thoughts that aren’t useful to you anymore. On the other hand I’d like to
add and counter-balance with these tips: don’t get stuck in reading, in just
taking in new information either or you might become a self-help junkie. Use
the new information, put what you have learned in to action and try it out.

7. Constantly on information overload.
                                                                               
With information overload I don’t just mean that you read a lot. I pretty
much mean an overload in all input. If you just let all information flow into
your mind it will be hard to think clearly. It’s just too much stimulation.
A few more potential downsides to this habit are:
                                                                               
- Some of the input you receive will be negative. The media and your
surroundings often put a negative spin on things for various reasons. If you
aren′t selective in what input you want in your life then you’ll be dragged
into this negativity too. This affects how you think, feel and act.
                                                                               
- It creates an urge to keep up with what’s happening but there are always
ten more things happening so you can’t keep up. This makes life stressful.
                                                                               
- It becomes hard to make decisions and take action if your mind is
constantly bombarded with information or trying to sort through it all.
Personally I find that if I get too much information it leads to a sort of
paralysis. Not much get′s done. Or you get stuck in habit and keep busy,
busy, busy at high speed with low priority activities.

To be able to focus, think more clearly and take action it′s useful to be
more selective in what you let into your mind. When you work shut out as much
distractions as possible. Shut off the phone, internet and shut the door. It
is strange how much you can get done when you aren′t interrupted every fifth
minute or have the opportunity to procrastinate by checking your RSS-feeds or
favourite websites.
                                                                               
Now I′m not suggesting that you should stop reading all blogs or newspapers.
But think about what you really want to read and what you read just read to
fill your time. And have a look at other areas of input where the doors are
wide-open.
                                                                               
For instance, you don′t have to let in all the negative emotions from your
surroundings. If everyone else are procrastinating or are anxiously keeping
themselves busy by doing low-priority tasks at warp speed it′s easy to be
influenced by that mood. If you have a door, then it might be good idea to
shut it and focus on doing more important things.